My I love myself enough to reclaim what is mine – to not allow others (or indeed myself) to bury me in the rubble of a chaotic fall.
“Pride goeth before a fall.” So says a paraphrased scripture from the book of James in the Christian Bible. But we need to think about the role of pride after we’ve experienced the Tower. Even if pride played a roll in precipitating this Tower experience, that doesn’t mean you should write pride off as an all-evil trait. Tarot’s greatest lesson is balance, and just as too much pride can get us in hot water, so too little pride can wreak havoc in our lives. If we lack pride, we may choose to never extract ourselves from the rubble of the Tower. We may allow others to belittle us and believe we deserve that treatment. Pride is a part of the recipe for healthy self-perception and therefore for interactions with others in the world around us.
- Have you had an experience that crushed your pride or left you will a great feeling of self-doubt or unworthiness?
- If you struggle or have struggled with a lack of pride, what is the internal narrative that keeps a healthy pride from growing within you? (It can be good to write these down — actually see them and put them into specific words.)
- How might you replace these messages? What are counter-arguments you can consciously say to yourself to combat these self-destructive thoughts?
- What are you proud of? What accomplishments and character traits should you let yourself embrace with pride?
It might feel very silly to have a conversation with your own thoughts if it’s not something you’ve done before, but the narrative you keep (whether conscious or unconscious) is powerful. So it can be incredibly empowering to take control of that narrative and create a new story that is a better reflection of who you are — which is a person worthy of love, respect, kindness, and care.