Don’t let heartache steal your spark or turn you into someone you don’t want to be.
A broken heart or betrayal can send you reeling, wondering what happened and questioning your own sense of self and safety. During this time, it is very easy to let the storm in the Three of Bats douse our inner flame of truth, of self, of hopes. It can be easy to want to get even, or get to the bottom of what happened, or make sure that your heart is guarded against all future possible aches. These are normal responses, but be sure to pause and ask yourself if the ends justify the means. Absolutely take care of yourself and protect yourself, but be sure you are approaching these tasks while holding true to your core values. You may have lost a piece of yourself or some of your innocence, but don’t lose your entire sense of self.
If anything, it is important to bolster your sense of self. To make sure that you have a strong, core understanding of who you are, or it will be extremely difficult to find your footing again. Take the time to nurture the injured parts of you, to give yourself unconditional love, and to know that you are good enough as you are without having to change yourself in some fundamental way.
- Have you ever had a heartache that made you question your sense of self and/or your core values?
- How did you respond to this experience?
- What are some ways that you could honor and nurture your core sense of self in the present and if something like this ever happened again?
- What are some ways you can work to protect your heart while remaining true your core values?